It’s got nothing to do with what’s under the bed or in the closet. Deric Yang, who sometimes feels vulnerable, shares with us what scares men in the sack.
A small wrinkled thing, green with wisdom (Yoda), once said fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate. And hate leads to bad sex… or something like that! As gung-ho as men can be about bedroom fun, they have fears too. There isn’t anything as uniquely disappointing as burning bedroom passion that turns into a sodden heap of ‘meh’ because of someone’s fears and insecurities. Here are three things men actually dread in the bedroom.
The fear of leaving the station before anyone gets off, as it were, is very real fear that continues to disturb the average dude. And it gets worse if it happens when he least expects it. Premature ejaculation can happen for any reason, quite a few of which are psychological or stress-related, but every time it happens, it will a li’l hard to get over. Unfortunately for many men, advertisements and movies (that are, of course, non-pornographic cos Malaysians do not consume porn…yes, we’re being sarcastic here) create a situation where a man has unrealistic expectations about himself and his performance.
“The first time I went to bed with my girlfriend(now wife) was a total disaster; I was so nervous about living up to what I thought were her expectations that I sort of deflated before we even began! I’m lucky that she’s the forgiving sort of lady. Things turned out a little better when I learnt to relax.” – Ken*, 35
“The stereotype is that Asians are typically smaller than everyone else so that didn’t help with my confidence while I was overseas. But I had a girlfriend who told me, awfully enough, that it wasn’t the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean, who says things like that?! But it really helped!” – Robert*, 28