What does it take for a marriage to last? What is marriage anyway? What makes two people decide to merge their two lives together, and then what happens after that?
Movies and romance novels tell us that finding the right person is the hardest part, but in truth, perhaps staying with that person is where the challenge is at. For anyone about to take the plunge, some advice from those who have experienced it can go a long way.
In response to the question “What are key things to form a meaningful relationship with someone?“, Reddit user grinningreaper – who has been married for over 30 years – had some very real things to say.
1. Lust is what you feel the first couple of years.
“You can’t help it. It overwhelms you. You want to be with the person, to touch them, to have sex with them. You are sad when you are away from them. It is a chemical reaction that promotes breeding. It dies with time. Any relationship less than 3 years old is probably fueled by that.”
While 3 years is a bit longer than one would expect, this butterflies-in-your-tummy stage of infatuation of course varies by couple. But it’s a good thing to note, especially when the lust starts to fade, that it’s perfectly natural in the progression of a relationship.